What’s God Got to Do with It?

The song, “What’s Love Got to Do with It?” was a mega-hit of the 1980s—winning two Grammies, topping the charts for almost a year—and could be credited for the “remaking” of Tina Turner. Not surprising. Her music video performance was riveting as she strode across the stage in diva-like confidence belting out these words…

Oh-oh-oh, what’s love got to do with it?
What’s love but a second-hand emotion?
What’s love got to do with it?
Who needs a heart
When a heart can be broken?

I remember my cousin Sharon putting up an almost convincing argument that the image was, in fact, Turner’s body double. She couldn’t have had such great legs at her age, Sharon reasoned. Well, the rest of us weren’t buying Sharon’s theory, but the real issue was bigger than that. After more than a decade of Tina living in oblivion, it was hard for many people to believe that anyone could make such an impressive comeback. But come back she did, and we were yet to learn all the facts of Tina’s resurrection.

Perhaps this song was so successful because it was Tina’s testimonial. Whatever the reason, “What’s Love Got to Do with It?” survived a decade and spawned the movie by the same name, starring Angela Bassett. It was a no-holds-barred depiction of Tina’s marriage to Ike Turner, who managed and controlled her career and life through years of abuse, ultimately driving her to emotional and financial ruin. With all that had been leveled against Tina, people joined her in asking the question, “What’s love got to do with it?” If love made Tina vulnerable to abuse, perhaps she was right to avoid the risk of love at all cost.

Who among us, after all, hasn’t been in one way or another burned by love?  Who hasn’t at some point experienced a failed relationship? Whose heart hasn’t been broken, if not in a romantic relationship, perhaps through the betrayal or rejection of a friend or family member? Or what about disappointment in God’s love… oops! More on that later…

I remember the high level of energy in the audience as, fixated on the screen, we watched Tina’s story. We admired her strength, sympathized with and excused her weaknesses, rooted for her in her struggles, and celebrated her victories. This was no girl flick. No ethnic-exclusive drama. Male or female, black, white, yellow, brown or red, it was every survivor’s story. Growing up in a world ravaged by AIDS, “safe sex” without love and living together without marriage were all-too familiar mechanisms of survival. When it came to real intimacy, fortified guards were up. Love and commitment were no longer synonymous.

By the turn of the 21^st century our society had become more fragmented as the values that once united us were giving way to a pervasive cynicism that crept even into the pews of the church. Yes, we Christ-followers are good at masking, but truth be told, at times we, too, have questioned if God was really in complete control of the universe, let alone cared about our seemingly defeated lives. When confronted by the bitter realities around us—a world at war, rampant poverty, hatred and violence, unparralled natural disasters, and economic hardships, we can be made to question the relevance of our faith, and even the power of God. “…What’s God got to do…? We quickly stifle the aggravating voice, knowing all too well that it will never really go away until appeased.

Unarguably many of us have experienced the unconditional love of God and some of us have even seen his powerful miracles, but even so, far too many of us have had our idea of a loving God put to the test by the deep wounds of real life in the real world… wounds that we suffered at the intersection of Main Street and Church Street. We have been shaken to the core by the struggles within our families and our own personal traumas, and dare I say, unanswered prayers, and they have made us ask, “Who needs a soul when a soul can be shaken?”

If being a Christ-follower is about having all the answers to life, then we must admit that we have sorely lost the doctrinal debate battle. If it’s about masking feelings and touting triumphalism, then God’s strength revealed through our weakness, vulnerability and authenticity should never define the paradox of the Christian faith.

But if it is about the know that is deep in your soul that you can’t explain, that faintly whispers, “God is still in control,” even when the ground under you is crumbling; if it’s about allowing life and its complexities to challenge and change you without a panicked rush to pat answers; if it’s about embracing a messy, senseless kind of love that made God send his Son to die a cruel death for the redemption of humankind; yeah, if it’s about a faith that causes you to rise out of the ashes when everyone, including yourself, has counted you out, then let’s begin the conversation…

What’s God got to do with it? Perhaps not much as we peer blindly through a dark glass, trying desperately to find answers to our broken hearts and shaken souls. But in the end, everything.

 Marion Skeete is the host and producer of a new talk show, Living Legacy. The 2-part launching episode,  “What’s God Got to Do with It?” brings together Christ-followers in their 20s and 30s to discuss the relevance of their faith in the 21^st century and how it speaks to the controversial issues of our day. For clips and to get more info about the show, visit: www.livinglegacyshow.com.

 

Hands Down… Confessions of an Idol Worshiper

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I’m no idol worshiper. Or so I thought. Of course I’ve always known that idols are not necessarily those ornate statues made of gold or silver… I knew that. My definition of an idol worshiper was someone obsessed with anything NOT God. And that was not me. I was, and still am, by any definition, a passionate follower of Jesus Christ. Idol worshiper and passionate follower of Jesus Christ are mutually exclusive. Or so I thought.

Well, I discovered a year ago that they are not mutually exclusive. In fact, much to my surprise, I came face to face with the naked truth that idol worshiper and passionate follower of Jesus Christ could actually dwell side by side in a vicious yet subtle competition that eludes even the most spiritually “mature.” And with that discovery, I had to shamefully admit that I was a “mature idol worshiper” who was still passionately following Christ, though with increasingly less passion.

What was even more disappointing and shameful was identifying the idol that was in a knock-down-drag-out competition with my “christ passion,” and believe it or not, winning hands down…

It was my computer.

Yes, Her Majesty Herself, who has saved me time and time again by gratifying my “right to know,” who has put me in touch with otherwise unknowable people and facts, and who has delivered me on a daily basis from the devastating consequences of information deficit, had earned my unwavering loyalty. She had now gained the power to set my agenda for the day and keep me inundated with news, views and dues. I rationalized that I was directly and indirectly using my computer to advance God’s purposes. Shouldn’t that be a commendable thing? Sure nuff. But the “worth-ship” that I was giving to my computer had increasingly become more than the “worth-ship.” I was giving to God himself.

“Worship” communicates the idea of a slave bowing at his master’s feet, heeding his every beck and call.  Well, God showed me ever so graphically that that was exactly what I was doing by prioritizing my computer over him. Like a slave, I was responding to my computer’s every beck and call.

It was a bit humorous to visualize myself bowing to the computer with my hands down on the keyboard in a posture of servitude and humility. But the visual was also immensely convicting and I immediately repented, asking God to give me the grace to put him back in the place where he rightfully belongs: FIRST.

You see, I learned that putting God first is not the same as keeping God first. God as PRIORITY in my life is not the same as the status on my facebook page that attempts to define my entire day, when the reality is that feelings and priorities can change in a moment. Rather, putting God first is a choice that I must make moment by moment, as I am faced with difficult challenges that call for Christ-centered decisions vs. political correctness; the tyranny of the urgent; and the many media messages that can easily distract me and neutralize God-given purpose and passion.

Of course I’m not hating on computers. Second to Godiva chocolate, they’re the single most important modern invention. Quite recently God miraculously provided me with a Dell laptop, which promises to increase my productivity by 100% percent. “Yeah, right!” I think to myself—a little jaded.

Honestly, I am grateful for this advanced piece of technology, but every morning I wake up, my prayer to God is to “have no other Dells before him.” He is first, and must remain first. Hands down.

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Things that Count – Can I Be Both Rich & Happy?

           

Things that Count – Can I Be Both Rich & Happy?

                                                                        © Marion D. Skeete

“Money can’t buy true happiness.” We’ve all heard that statement growing up. “After all,” the statement goes on to reason, “the wealthiest people are the most unhappy.” Yet, I’ve never seen people crowding into stores trying to play the happiness lottery! 

That said, it’s true that people really do want happiness. It’s just that most of them honestly believe that they can be the small percentage that finds both riches and happiness. Though it does happen, the stories are few and far between of wealthy people intentionally giving up their riches to pursue happiness. They, too, believe you can have your pie and eat it too. 

So, how are Christ-followers to view money? Can we be the faithful few to find both wealth and happiness? Let’s unpack that a bit. The Bible says that the love of money is the root of all evil. A controversial preacher once said that although that is true, it is equally true that the lack of money is the root of all evil. Whatever your views on the love or lack of money, the issues surrounding money and its ability to provide happiness have become particularly glaring in light of our challenging economic situation. None of us would doubt that crime, violence and anger escalate when people feel they don’t have the necessary resources to pursue a happy life. “Life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness” is what the American dream is all about.  It’s what we invest blood, sweat and tears to achieve. And even if being filthy rich is not your goal, few would argue that we need money, if only to survive.

On the other hand, the Bible seems to be in a mostly adversarial role with money, citing that it’s extremely hard for a rich person to enter into the Kingdom of God (Matthew 19:24), and because of financial greed God’s people exploit others (Mal 3:5) and yes, even rob God (3:8-9). And then there’s the alleged 1 Timothy 6:10: “For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs.” 

Whoa! Are we evil for wanting the mean green? And is it really all that mean? Fact is, people seem to get meaner when they don’t have it! Is it such a bad thing to not have to worry about where your next meal is coming from, or not have to live from paycheck to paycheck? What’s wrong with becoming a millionaire, if it means I can give more to others? To which the Bible would respond, “It’s not money itself that’s evil, it’s the love of it!” The love or obsession with money causes greed, oppression of the poor, self-sufficiency and pride, and undermines our trust in God’s love and care for us. It ultimately makes us unhappy because it doesn’t fill the God-vacuum in our souls, temporarily placating us with things.

 Let’s not kid ourselves—things matter. But they don’t count. In other words, material things are of lesser value than spiritual things. Material things can disappear in a moment with the crash of the stock market, or even the loss of health or life. Spiritual things last for eternity. They are the intangibles that give meaning to our very existence. In fact, they offer us more than mere happiness that is solely regulated by external circumstances; instead they resource us with unexplainable joy and a profound sense of contentment, regardless of what’s happening on Wall Street. No wonder we are encouraged to seek first God’s purpose in and through our lives, and he will give us the material things that he knows we are in need of. It’s about priority. It’s about value. It’s about loving things that count.

Marion Skeete is President of LegacyMakers International, a leadership and discipleship training network: marion@legacy-makers.org